Friday, April 3, 2020

Life Healing and Happiness:

Life Healing and Happiness:

Life Healing and Happiness: Often times we tend to think that the things that...

Life Healing and Happiness:
Often times we tend to think that the things that...
: Often times we tend to think that the things that we find challenging (cannot do) make us less than others. Sometimes we get criticized...

Life Healing and Happiness: BrokennessWe all go through our seasons in life!...

Life Healing and Happiness:
Brokenness
We all go through our seasons in life!...
: Brokenness We all go through our seasons in life!  Being broken is one of those seasons that seem to linger the longest. Why, is it...

Brokenness

We all go through our seasons in life! 
Being broken is one of those seasons that seem to linger the longest. Why, is it because of the emotional, psychological, physical along with the spiritual setback? Or, could it be that we do not have that "person" to share our load with. That person that will understand our pain even when we are completely silent.

We tend to get so caught up in our own affairs (which is ok) we all lead different lives and is entitled to our space however we must remember that at the end of the day "we are our brothers keeper"  we all have a purpose, a role to play as a fellow human and sometimes we ought to slow down reflect on what that purpose truly is and try our best to fulfill it.

Everybody need somebody, some folks are blessed to have a mother, father, sibling, auntie, uncle who cares and show it but not all of us have that. For some of us, all we've got are the people we meet on our journey and it is those people we grow to love and trust, it is those that we marry, we become friends with, and it is those people we depend on to check on us in our time of weakness. It is those people who fulfill their purpose by being a trusted  friend one that listens allowing you to pour out your pain hence making your road to recovery possible. 

We are all different in someways but then again we are all the same in some. We all need a friend, a listening ear, a motivator, someone that loves us enough to be present during our time of joy and in our time of sadness. As my quote says "oftentimes a friendly conversation can soothe someone's brokenness"

 Who are you there for and who is there for you!




Wednesday, March 25, 2020


Often times we tend to think that the things that we find challenging (cannot do) make us less than others. Sometimes we get criticized, even stereotyped. However, I have learned this truth about myself and it is that my shortcomings motivates me to do better! 

Yes, my flaws are my motivation!

 Rather than taking a negative approach toward my struggles I accept them for what they are (simple setbacks) and allow them to encourage me to be vigilant towards my success.


Friday, August 16, 2019

 Yes, life have knocked me out a time or two and though at that moment in the ring getting knocked around it is easy to lose faith, get confused even, we must find a way to fight back. I have been punched so hard, all I could see was greyness. I was crippled physically,  mentally and emotionally however I nursed my wounds daily with the hope of returning to "me" so that I can regain my strength and fight back....maybe my first few punches may not make any impact, but we all can agree that a girl have got to try.

 Life can be cruel but no matter what it throws at us whether it be kicks or punches we have to dig deep in ourselves and find a way to "fight back." I know, yes, I have been there and can testify "sometimes it ain't  no easy journey getting yourself back." But see, life does not stop, it is always coming at us, whether it's punching, kicking, crushing or even elevating, so then we have to be vigilant. 

 Life often seem unfair with the uncertainties it throws at us hence the reason for my quote " challenges are inevitable, but we must find a way to make our healing the same."  It is through healing we can see the light which makes our target visible,  so that we can strike our knock out punch and defeat what was meant to cripple us!

Sunday, August 4, 2019

The Glow

         This face hides much pain and struggles yet it  glows!

As women, we go through so much, every time our journey seem to be going well it gets twisted with a sprinkle of pain or disappointment! Is it such a bad thing to share these experiences even though they may open our life’s to negative scrutiny..... I guess it is for this very same reason we clothe them inside, which is so not healthy for us.

 Initially I started this blog to chat with you (my viewers) about situations like ones that I’ve been through myself, ones that we sometimes sweep under the rug and never revisit nor talk about. Miscarriages; our babies that didn’t make it...is one of those things. We all deal with our pain, stress and even our times of joy differently but for a mother or any parent who truly wanted that child which was loss I know from experience that it’s not easy. Pregnancy is measured in trimester (three stages) and it is after the first trimester (3 months) we start sharing the good news with family and friends because that is when you and others (superstitious grandparents,doctors) feel you have passed the critical part and can now embrace your pregnancy and expect positive outcomes. Truth is the minute I know there is a tiny person growing inside me I fall in love. I start bonding-establishing connections. I start doing everything (eating, taking prenatal vitamins, no bending, etc) in the best interest of that tiny little Dot. 

She could be 1-12 weeks to me it makes no difference, all I know she is my baby, and she is growing inside me and I can’t wait to see her, to hold her, to cuddle her, to love her. It is that instantaneous love that make me embrace the morning sickness, the headaches and the number of other ailments that comes with early pregnancy 🤰🏻 knowing that it’s the rising HCG levels. Hormones that are integral for maintaining my hormone secretion and the development of my tiny little seed that’s causing my body to react differently-causing me to feel like my life of routine and balance is now transformed to be a place of chaos. I am now living like I’m a stranger in my own body as it’s now being invaded by the growth of this tiny person and amid the hormonal turmoil, I am loving it! 

As she grows the pressure make it's way to your hips, thighs, legs, and feet...(that is if she makes it that far!) And still I embrace it, hoping, praying, waiting for her safe arrival but sadly sometimes, just sometimes that wait is ended quicker than we expected and sometimes it runs its due course but our bundle of joy does not make it home. Now, that is where a new journey begins! How does one move forward from the physical, emotional, and psychological imbalance that is imposed upon the grieving mother and her family after such a loss. The question for me is"do we ever truly recover?"

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