Goals

Not fitting in

Equality.

 It is a known fact that we are all created in the image and likeness of Our Father however our life experiences and decisions shapes who we become.

 We sometimes tend to judge others, form opinions and/or make common grounds based on ethnicity, colour, culture, education among many other definitions and perceptions but life as taught me that at the end of the day it boils down to "us." 

We define who we are! Our thoughts and actions defines who we become hence forming our individual characters but our "truth"  (experiences) is what truly defines our equality. 

Love

 As humans, it is coded in our DNA to love and nurture our offspring. Even when they are grown adults we still have the urge to protect them from pain, disappointment and anything that may cause them suffering. So then why is it when someone takes an interest in us and that interest grows and blossom into the thing we all seek (love) we sometimes take advantage of it?

Being able to foster these emotions (love, trust) and decide to express them in words and action (especially to someone we do not share our DNA with) literally put us in a gullible position, yet we do it anyway hoping that the person we share them with in return will do the same. 

We all have the desire to be loved but do we truly know how to appreciate it. Loving someone takes a lot of trust and deep emotional feelings transformed into action, which should not to be taken lightly. I have learned through life experiences that for you to understand the depth of love one must first learn the true meaning of love and in my opinion it starts with loving oneself.

The same way we try our best to protect ourselves and our children from pain (heartache) so we should try to understand that when someone chooses to love us, trusting us with their inner most emotion (even if we do not share the same feeling) we should not take it for granted but give them the respect they deserve..........

Silence.

Simple statement yet a profound one! We all go through our valley moments in life. A time when we need someone to just sit with us, pray for us, or simply hold our hands-reassuring us that "this too shall pass!" Life as taught me that sometimes it is not wise to question a person (friend or family) about their situation because often times the pain is so deep one has to recover from it before making an attempt to verbalize (share) it. Yolanda Adams in one of her songs sings "while I'm riding through the storm, Jesus rocks me in His arms."  As mothers (parents, guardians) when we are comforting our babies (putting them to rest/sleep) we do not talk to them asking them questions (they probably wouldn't be able to respond anyways) because they are tired and most likely just need to rest and recuperate so that they can grow. 

This is similar to our valley moments, it is when we need support and time to rest-getting the strength we need (mentally, physically and spiritually)  so we can climb our way out and get to that mountain top of recovery. The place where we can claim our victory, share our testimony and start living again. 

See, sitting in silence doesn’t mean you are not helping! It means that you are listening to the person’s pain, to that person‘s soul crying from within so that you can determine the course  of action you will take to help them through their situation. Now that is true listening!

Healing.

Life has knocked me down a few times! People have repeatedly hurt and disappointed me, they have  slandered me, life circumstances have tried to cripple my thoughts and my voice but through it all I've learned a very valuable lesson. Sometimes in order for us to heal we need to take time away from the hustle and bustle ridding ourselves of the toxic environment that eats away at us thus creating an atmosphere of calm which enables us one on one time with our inner being and The Force that fuels us. (we are sometimes our best company)

 Healing is an integral part of our growth and well-being and if we do not take the time to mend (no matter how minute the pain may seem) we "will" eventually fall apart hence making our journey to recovery a more challenging one. It is important for us to acknowledge our brokenness and take the time needed to heal. (Self Love and Self Care plays a great role in this area of our lives). I have learned, in order for me to truly be "me" I most be a very healthy me! I cannot be me and be broken at the same time.... We have to take the time to  distance ourselves in silence from  stress and the stressors so that we can be lifted up and soar!

The saying goes "when life gives you lemons, you make lemonade." I say what's the point in making it if you or no one else can enjoy it! We have to take the time to love and care for ourselves because there can only be one you/me and that's the healthy one......

Staying positive

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People are negative (this is a fact!) but we should not focus on their way because the moment we do, we can easily lose ourselves getting drawn into gossiping,  judging, and criticizing rather than being that tower of strength, support and guiding light that lights the path to positive outcomes. We most stay positive so that we can foster the good in us which contributes to our holistic health, well-being and an overall healthy human experience. Let us live and not just exist, let us start focusing on the positive, acknowledging the negative for what it truly is UNHEALTHY!